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Introducing: The UPside to Downsizing! RightSizing.

Yes, there is an “UPside to downsizing your home & possessions!©”

RightSizing Tips help Baby Boomers and Seniors Wade Through Years of Possessions

Downsizing focuses on the physical aspects of relocation – de-cluttering, letting-go and dealing with less. Moving-On with Style brings you the “UPside to downsizing – Rightsizing!™

RightSizing accepts the past and its fond memories, and when you use the “UPside to downsizing©” we’ll keep the good things that can be gained in mind, (yes there are – dreams you’d could revive, hobbies you haven’t had time for, energy that can be spent on grandchildren & friends). The process will be less painful and move more quickly. Seniors and Baby Boomers moving from the home, where they raised children and the focus was on family, to a smaller space, will need to downsize considerably and that’s disagreeable at best.

So, the method we use whether we are working with –

Boomers moving, making a condo their retirement residence, OR
A Senior moving to an assisted living facility, OR
A mature newly married couple, combining households is RightSizing.

“RightSizing is the Up-side to downsizing!©” and our company, Moving-On With Style offers the following tips for baby-boomers and their elder relatives faced with downsizing, by taking the RightSizing approach you will:

1) Start with a Vision of the life you want to embrace. What could you gain? What will there be room to do now? Let your mind imagine the possibilities, dream be positive, then write down. Refer to your vision often, especially when the going gets rough!

2) Start Early. Plan ahead for the move – You’ll need time to decide. The shorter the notice, the more stressful & difficult. Begin with a notebook, with pockets, collect your information, thoughts and ideas, for easy reference.

3) Start Small. Pick one-two-hour project, a paper-stacked desk, a giant pile of stuffed animals, the ever-present “junk drawer.” You’ll get a quick win and become familiar with the process of sorting and tossing. Don’t spend a lot of time deciding, if you get stuck? Put those items aside, labeled Undecided, for now.

4)Strategize the larger projects. Map them out, on paper. In the “old place” the desk was in the office – now, what will you do at the desk. What files will you really need now. Hobbies may take up more space now than it did, so what will the trade off be?

5) Score your stuff. On a scale of 1 to 10 ask these questions for each item. Love it? Use it? Space it takes? Condition/$$Value, Sentimental value? For example, consider collections,(say angels) and it’s Love it?/10, but you plan to store except at Christmas – that’s a 2 for use it and so forth.

6) Slice it. As you begin, think in terms of percentages. What percentage of your clothes can you keep? 3000 square feet has less closet space than 1100. Do you still have to have 10 business suits or 20 pairs of pumps? Using masking tape, mark out the size of the new closet or consider the size of the living room you may be going to and mark that off. Now, you’ll have a clearer idea of what will fit in THAT space.

7) Sort it. Putting like items with Like. Put colorful dots or different colored sticky notes on items, denoting where the items will go (i.e., blue to son, red to keep, yellow to charity). Don’t move things that are cracked, worn or don’t work (i.e. that chair you’ve been meaning to fix/paint for 7 years). Remember, whatever you keep you will sort TO an assigned in a specific Clearly label, the room it will live in & what’s in it.

8) Showcase or Sow it. REMEMBER with some items, it’s the memory that’s precious not the thing itself. Creating a showcase that honors the memory, or the person who gave it, instead of keeping the vase itself, that Aunt Jane gave you for your wedding, will mean more and take up less space.

9) Share the Process, Share the Stories. Even can be ripe with stress, “a burden shared is lessened and joy shared is doubled” is especially true now, Respecting the emotional need to share stories that will come to mind in this process, is good for everyone — that item that you think trivial, can have immense meaning to your children, just as telling the story attached to old statue can make it more dear to them.

Finally, It’s not about how much stuff you keep, but about the Those special objects, from critical periods of the past, imbued with the values that will help you make the most of the new life you’re about to begin – that’s “UPside to downsizing – Rightsizing!™

Life’s Third Act.

Encouragement – An easy way to get it.

“A merry heart does good like a medicine”. Proverbs 17:22

Well, quite a few days now, I’ve been trying to sort things out, from 100’s of miles away, for my Mom, who’s been unwell. A challenge ripe with worry, guilt, frustration and doubt. So, when I was sent a little note by a pastor friend of mine, I wasn’t in a “Don’t worry be happy,” mode. Anyway, he’d seen a television show about plastic surgery. People were getting face lifts, tummy tucks, enlargements of every kind, and all manner of procedures to look better. Seems everyone is wanting to enhance something and they’re willing to pay big money, (Ahh, there but for fortune). But there is one enhancement that money can’t buy – A SMILE. It’s amazing how much better people look when they smile. It takes years off their face and you don’t notice the wrinkles. A smile is guaranteed to improve your appearance. How often do YOU smile? Research has found that 4-year-old children smile and laugh about 400 times a day while for adults’ smiles and laughter decrease to only 14 times a day! (Geez, this week I’ve been in the minus category – but kept reading).

Putting a big smile on your face sends a message to your brain that things are — okay. Even a phony smile can work, (now we’re talking). So, – face the mirror – phony smile – oh! what was that, right afterwords? Wasn’t that just the littlest real smile creeping into your eyes? (well, yeah, I did look silly) If you are smiling, your brain responds with, “I must be happy.” You can jump start yourself into feeling good by smiling. As your mood improves, you open yourself to new possibilities. Always, keep some memories tucked away in your brain, that will bring a smile to your eyes (Mother thinking there was a person IN the ATM machine) 8=)

Try this: as you come into a room, walk around with a little smile on your face, –
people will wonder what you’re up to! Be prepared because they’ll ask you.

Ok, there is that danger – smiling can be contagious! Other people, seeing your smile will often smile back, and respond differently to you. Life is getting better because you smiled. A little lighter, and then what do you know, a glimmer of optimism and right on the heels of that, the creativity starts bubbling. (That IS encouraging.). Isn’t time you either infect someone or get infected by someone? (Absolutely, thanks Rev Mike!)

Remembering Me? Living Beyond the Grief.

Well, I’m back after a week of the latest virus. As I’ve been catching up, I found myself using a particular phrase, “back to the land of the living.” Ironic, since this is the time of the year, the end of May that my husband Jim passed away. My body remembers before the rest of me – I begin to feel down, and little things make me want to cry(more than usual, even) and this ache rises up – I stop and ask myself, “What has gotten in to you Katie!!” Then I answer(yes, it’s only polite) “Oh, Jim, remember? Of course.” He’s now gone, 4-times as long as we were together, so little time. Shouldn’t it be easier? Grief is like that. Apparently gone, then rising again.

So, then I just remember, how we loved just to sit together on the porch & talk & talk, how hard he worked, how much he respected & believed in me, how he liked to hear me sing in the car, how he’d tell me silly stories, when I didn’t think I could sleep, and most of all how much I loved him. Yes, I cry, over all we lost and all we might have had, but I remember too that I would do all over again. At 50 something I don’t know, if a man’s love is a blessing the Lord will send me, now. I do know, that God won’t let me go to waste! I now call those first few years after Jim’s passing, “an extended hiatus” — Webster defines hiatus: n. A gap or interruption in space, time, or discontinuity; a break.
As soon as I first said it I new it was just that, I’m ME again, only better because of everything. Grief is like that too, you learn to live with it and beyond it and you’re stronger. And now I’m back to land of the living, and where there’s work to be done, friendships to be developed, family to be nutured and things to be said!

Meryl Runion in her blog…I just knew there were a hundred things I wish I had said to him while I still had the chance. I just knew something had gone horribly wrong, and I couldn’t change it. I just knew I didn’t ever want to find myself in that kind of darkness again.I had been living in a land of make-believe. I didn’t want to see, but I knew I had to. I hit the wall and my eyes were being forced open. Not that I woke-up all at once in that moment. I was in too much shock to see what was right in front of me all at once.

If you’ve already had your wake-up call, you know what I’m talking about. If you’ve already had your wake-up call, you’ve learned that the only way out is to walk straight through things you would rather avoid with an open heart and mind and honest communication. It may be too alarming to face it all at once – after all, that’s why you would rather avoid it. But if you don’t find the truth, it will find you.

If you haven’t had your wake-up call, I hope I can be your wake-up call. It’s a lot easier if you open your eyes and start telling the truth before you and the wall collide.”

Beautifully put and I agree wholeheartedly!